I learnt to crawl, walk and talk
I recognized my mother and father then learnt to call them mum and dad
I was told my name and learnt to spell it.
Oh how I learnt the hard way that ladies are to be seen and not heard.
They told me to compose myself and behave lady like.
They failed to let me express myself or let out the questions that roamed my mind which are still unanswered till date.
I learnt to keep shut when I won’t make sense but sometimes how would I know if I make sense without speaking?
I learnt to unlearn and relearn, so should you!
I learnt that the Kitchen is my workshop as a woman and the first tool I was taught to use was the knife. Yes, I had a lot of cuts and hurts but couldn’t cry out loud nor share my pain because all I would hear were comments on how careless I was.
I learnt I was to go to school, read my books and submit assignments as and when due. Such a diligent student I was. How I made mama proud, I did.
I learnt that I was going to get married and have kids, I learnt that I was going to fall in love; they failed to teach me how to love and be loved back. They told me not to fall in love because I didn’t need it yet but when I now needed it, I never found a genuine one. I ask myself if I really want to get married when I see what it entails. Let’s all remain single and be friends with whoever we want to; I’ll have to learn how!
I learnt that I’ll be criticized and shut out for reasons beyond my power. I am prepared to fight for what is right though I don’t know my rights.
I learnt it was better to ask questions than to assume.
So I ask you, how? How do you live in this confused world where culture, traditions, hypocrisy, perversion and insecurity on several grounds have blinded the eyes of many?
We are all products of what we’ve been through so I rest my case!
Written by: StacySpeaks 2018.