A Conversation With Yemisi Ajeojo: ‘You Get Clarity By Taking The First Step’.

You recently authored a book, ‘Social media Is Your New CV. Can you tell us about the book and what prompted you to write it?
   I won’t forget 2017 too soon when I moved back to Nigeria with a mind crowded with uncertainties resulting from the constant reminder by friends and relatives about the unemployment statistics in the country. It wasn’t a miracle to have gotten over 5 job offers in less than two weeks from people I met on social media. Apart from job offers, my interactions on social media has gotten me invitations to speak at amazing events including TEDx and sponsorship for some of the community projects I have embarked on. I wrote this book to share some things myself and circle of friends did right. I wrote this book to help youths harness the opportunities that social media platforms provide.

Celebration of a young icon: Yemisi Ajeojo
Yemisi Ajeojo, Author and co-founder of Triift Africa.

This book doesn’t only recount my experiences but also tell stories of people I know who have gotten jobs, contracts and scholarship opportunities by connecting with the right people the right way and sharing appropriate content online. I took a step further to explain how anyone can achieve this too. The book covers how to set up a profile that stands out, how to network properly on social media as well as how to use and get results from LinkedIn.



social media is your new CV

What should readers expect to gain from this book and how can they get a copy?

‘Social Media Is Your New CV’ is a practical book with worksheets embedded in it, I mentioned over 40 platforms one can use to create an online CV, portfolio or website. In addition, I shared factors to consider when choosing a profile picture irrespective of your industry, how to find the right people to follow online and the best ways to network on social media. I also simplified the use of LinkedIn. Click here to get a copy.  


Having read your book and found out about your accomplishments and engagements at age 23, how have you been able to achieve all of this?
I don’t think a lot of people in their twenties have their life figured out, at least I do not. However, I hold on to the values of continuous learning, productivity and I am keen on using what I have to solve the problems around me. All of these crowned with God’s wisdom and love for me has brought me this far.

In the midst of your busy schedule how do you create time for yourself, loved ones and care for your mental health?
I am currently learning how to delegate responsibilities to others on my team and say No to things that are not a priority to me. Doing this, I have been able to focus on what is most important, including relationships with people that matter to me. I also try to eat healthy, have good hours of sleep and spend some time alone.

Briefly tell us about Triift Africa and who are your clients?
The Nigerian Bureau of Statistics says Nigeria has 36.9 Million MSMEs and about 70% of them do not have access to credit of up to N30,000($82). In Nigeria, lack of blueprints from government to drive employment have tangibly contributed to the growth of entrepreneurship in the country. Therefore, micro enterprises power a huge percentage of Nigeria’s GDP and while ignored for the most part, I strongly believe that the key to unlocking Nigeria’s economic growth is in these small businesses.

Part of what limits businesses from accessing funds is sometimes their inability to demonstrate an understanding of their business finance an plan to scale. Coincidentally, according to the New York Times, poor financial literacy is the top 4 reasons why businesses fail. Triift Africa is set up to enable young people, women, growing and aspiring business owners access low interest loans, understand their finances and build wealth.

We’ll like you to recount your milestones in the past one year of existence.
In the past one year, we have taken an admirable number of micro and small business owners from hustle to portfolio. In summary;

  • We have provided over 320 business owners with training on business finance. This training included how to raise money for their idea, basics on book keeping, how to cut down unnecessary costs and boost profit.
  • We have provided over 8.3 million Naira as collateral with free and low interest loans to small business owners. This investment has ranged from 30,000 to 400,000 naira.
  • We have provided free resources to aid proper business management to over 709 business owners.
  • We have worked directly with over 29 business owners, providing coaching and advisory that has enabled them to take their business from idea to profitability.

So far, what lesson(s) has your enterprise taught you?

I have learnt that:

  • Trust is a currency. Sometimes, what you have in your hands is not what you have in your account. Relationship is something you can tap into, and most times trust is how to get people to invest their time and money in you. Trust can be built by being consistent, having integrity and sharing your own story
  • You get clarity by taking the first step. Just use what you have in your hands, be diligent with it  and watch it become an even wider vision.
  • When you start a business whether big or small, the first thing you will need is someone to help you with your numbers, then a lawyer and all other professionals as you grow. This is why we are very proud of the role we play in helping businesses build sustainably.
  • We recently created other services including our business finance class when we saw from our engagement with clients how easy it is for someone to mess up their business because of basic things like poor understanding about the difference between revenue and profit.

No matter how big or small your business is, it is important that you know your numbers because the more you know them, the better you understand your business. So now, we teach business owners how to keep records, set the right price, cut down on cost, easily identify other mediums to make money and be more sustainable.

  • Do not be in a hurry to expand beyond what you have the capacity for. There is a prize for staying in the process, and social media popularity is not always equal to profitability.

We have interacted with businesses that have wanted to expand quickly when their foundation is not yet right. Your business can contribute tangibly to the growth of the economy, so you do not want to focus on likes and retweets more than the problem you are here to solve.

From your Instagram page, I read that you started this social enterprise with #15 000 of your personal money and have been able to help micro business with over #8.3 million. How were you able to achieve this?
I think money is attracted to people who make good use of it. The more you are diligent with money, the more it gravitates towards you. Having a great network of people whose resources you can pull in also goes a long way.

Seeing the trail Triift Africa is blazing, what should we be expecting from the enterprise in the next 5 years?

We want to continue growing as  a social enterprise bridging the gap in knowledge and access to financial inclusion for Micro Enterprises in Africa. We will continue unlocking growth opportunities by teaching growing business owners the value of going from subsistence to sustainable, while raising a digital, financially and socially empowered generation that can contribute tangibly to Africa’s economy as well as hold the keys to our sustainability as a continent.

I noticed you are giving out a free  profitability checklist, how can small business owners reading this access it?
Starting a small business can be such a hectic venture for a beginner. To  make it easier for your team, Triift Africa has put together 10 simple business lessons by 6 entrepreneurs to help you do more with less, plug leaks, find new opportunities and scale.

Triift Africa’s Profitability Checklist For Entrepreneurs

It contains apps to automate processes to pricing, managing finances, cash flow, learning, launching new products and updating existing ones. This definitive guide will help your business grow from hustle to portfolio; you can download it for free here.

What else are you involved in?
I am passionate about helping people access the digital job market and scale their business with digital tools. In 2018, I organised various events and projects which benefited over 2000 people.

Moving forward, I want to form a talent accelerator founded on community and collaboration aimed at influencing education, enterprise and employment at the grassroot level using my knowledge and experience in digital tools.

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BETWEEN AN ‘AGBERO’ AND A YOUNG GIRL: A STORY OF HARASSMENT. By: Olaniyi Aderuku.

It was another Friday morning in Lagos, and the usual bustling in the city of Lagos was gaining momentum. Commercial buses were jostling passengers and Lagosians were pacing to their various places of work. The situation was not any different in Ikeja, the capital city of Lagos, where a horde of street urchins, popularly known as ‘Area Boys’, had taken positions under the bridge at Medical Road, staring at passers-by and having their daily routine of doing almost nothing.

Among the passers-by was a young lady – slim, light-skinned and of average height – who was walking past the bus stop that morning. Sauntering with effortless grace, she had crochet hair on her but (quite sadly) it got her the admiration of one of the louts loitering at the bus stop and he chose to fondle with the hair as she walked past him. What audacity?!

She fumed: “Why did you touch me? Are you mad?” Then she started scanning through the area for any officer. None. She vowed to report him to anyone who’ll discipline him. This looked like a deep mess for the ‘agbero’ and so the apologies started but the lady wouldn’t listen. (She didn’t make that hair for the pleasure of a street urchin. No!) The rage continued. Apologies followed. More rage. More apologies. His cohorts looked on. Mustering her anger, “Are you mad? What right do you have to touch me? Are you mad?”. The apologies wouldn’t placate her. She wanted punishment. She sought the attention of people around.

Then a woman intervened in defence of the girl. She was obviously a mother who wouldn’t tolerate any form of harassment on young girls. “Why did you touch her?” he wouldn’t answer and she didn’t care. She launched a well-positioned slap onto his face. It wasn’t hot but I saw his lips jiggle. He didn’t stop apologising, but they wouldn’t listen and his colleagues, who were just at arm’s length, wouldn’t interfere. Some moments after, the tension doused.

Both madam and the young girl started walking away but the stream of abuses didn’t stop flowing from the girl’s mouth. She was visibly offended but I think it was time for her to let go. In Yoruba, they say “Aseju l’Olorun o fe” (Meaning: Don’t overdo; God doesn’t like it or better put: moderation is key). With the girl at a distance, another agbero shouted back: “Are you special? Has he not said sorry?” She heard him and turned back. She was ready for another round of invective. “What did you say?” she demanded. This was a more confident ‘area boy’ with good education. He stepped down from the railing where he sat and retorted, staring right into her eyes, “What else do you want? He has apologised but you don’t want to let go. Do your worst. Go and call the Police, we are here! Are you special? It’s not like you are that beautiful. What’s in your hair?” That was all he needed to quell the girl’s steam. “Ehn..Don’t you know he was harassing me? If it were your sister…bla bla bla.” She lost her energy and the battle ended right there.

Harassment of ladies is a phenomenon that has continued to rear its ugly head. Recently, ladies stormed the Yaba market in protest of molestation and groping by the traders at the market. It has been a trend that has been on for too long where male traders, under the guise of seeking patronage, take advantage of female shoppers, touching them offensively.

In the heat of the protest, the traders staged a counter-protest saying that they wouldn’t stop the lecherous act. They went ahead to pelt the protesting ladies with sachet water. That was the height of presumptuousness! The drama sparked a wide reaction on the social media with many people condemning the traders but it appears that was how far it went. The concerned authorities didn’t wade in. Reports say that there was a loud silence from social media-savvy Ayobami Shogunle, an Assistant Commissioner of Police and head of the Public Complaint Rapid Response Unit (PCRRU), over the incident.

We are in a society that has been infiltrated with a lot of men who demonstrate utter disregard for ladies and sadly, it might remain so. Even the innocence of children are taken advantage of by paedophiles. The surge in the reported cases of child molestation is particularly worrisome. The women are the victims of these notorious predators but nobody is listening.

It has now come to a time when this madness must come to its final end. The government must pay attention to this menace and enforce stringent regulations that would punish offenders. If these predators are left to frolic among sane humans, the cases of rape and violence against women would not stop and it may take a dramatic shape that could portend even more danger for our women.

Written by: Olaniyi Aderuku.

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HOW TO PROMOTE YOUR BUSINESS INEXPENSIVELY. By: ZeoDigital.

Promoting your business may not be the most thrilling of things, but the results gotten are most satisfying. It is best if you spend at least an hour (could be more; the more the better) every day promoting your business or figuring out ways to promote it.

How does one promote one’s business? You do this by getting the word out. The good word of your business.

*The first principle of any business promotion is that you have to do this consciously. You know that you cannot rely on other people to do it for you, doesn’t matter how great your service is. You still have to do the tedious task yourself.

*The second principle of any business promotion is that just like every other facet of business, business promotion is a budgeted task. However, this doesn’t mean that it has to be done expensively. In this article, we’ll be giving you a few inexpensive ways to promote your business, and the most that these would cost you is your time.

*Promote your business with whomever you talk with: You probably have business cards and several other documents in the course of doing business. Ensure to check these just to make sure that you’re using their promotional possibilities to their full advantage. Any document you send out should have at least these: your business logo, your contact information, business name, web address, and your business slogan. Make sure that your documents have a letterhead of those information. It wouldn’t be bad if you also add links to whatever social media platform your business might be on. People like options.

*Use your vehicle as a promotional tool: Not only delivery vehicles with the company name printed on it needs to be promoted. You most times see vehicles with their business name, logos, and numbers printed on them, and why do you think this is done? For promotion. It is called, Mobile Promotion. Imagine the number of people that will get to see that company branded car, especially when you’re stuck in traffic. According to the Outdoor Advertising Association of America, depending on where you stay and the size of the population there, a single vehicle wrap can generate 30,000 to 70,000 views per day. You see how this helps? And how inexpensive this is?

*The use of social media: This is no secret, and ever since the advent of social media platforms, lots of business owners (and this is especially true in recent times) have taken advantage of these platforms to promote their businesses. We have sites like: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pintrest, and YouTube, just to mention a few. All you need to get started is a good social media plan. You can also submit your business to Riatto.com a result oriented business directory platform.

*Blogging and writing articles: When you are thinking about ways to promote your business, never overlook writing articles as a medium. If you have a well written article, you have given your business a good and free advertising, and this usually results in a productive word of mouth. The more targeted your topics are, the better for your business. You could always find blogs or websites that have your target audience among its readership. There are blogs always seeking content, and you could always sign up and be a guest blogger. You could also try sending out entries to magazines and also to newspaper.

*Using press release: This is another great way to promote your business. The only warning here is that your press release has to have information that is worth paying attention to, and it should be engaging enough to get people’s interests piqued. If your company has recently participated in some charity event or your business has made some recent changes or your business has a new product, these information are ones that you could include in your press release.

Check out Zeo Digital to get more information and tips on how to take advantage of the evolving digital space in growing your business.

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AFRICANAS IN COLOURS(ARUGBA). By: Fiwajomi Photoart.

Medium: Pastel on Paper 24’24inch

Description: Africa has been blessed with everything to make it colorful despite our short comings, yet we have found happiness in our culture and environment. This is what makes us beautiful. The artwork was inspired by the artist’s culture.

Artist: Fiwajomi Photoart

 

 

LECTURER AND STUDENT RELATIONSHIP – A Paradigm Shift From The Reality. By: Ezra NnasomUkanwa.

The University is an institution of Higher education. In a University setting, there is great diversity regarding socio-cultural, political, religious and racial backgrounds among students and lecturers. This multifarious setting, with the presence of an appropriate and felicitous lecturer-student relationship, spawns a campus environment that prepares students and lecturers to live and work amicably and pleasingly in the society. It also equips them to respond to an increasing and accumulating complex global environment. Besides, interpersonal relations in diversity makes it possible for the generational advancement and propagation of knowledge, which is one of the critical mission in Nigeria and elsewhere.

Usually, a healthy relationship between the lecturers and students does influence students’ academic, personal and social integration into higher education. This could be attributed to the fact that lecturers contact with students in and out of the classroom is significant and exigent in student motivation and involvement in all facets of life. Considering the significance bestowed upon lecturer-student relationship, it cannot be overemphasised that the annihilating flames of immoral acts have crept into our university system which will cause a wreck, if not controlled. It is commonly known that when a lecturer gets closer to a student, the student tends to understand and familiarise him/herself with the lecturer and his course. But in time, there has been a radical negation from the reality; many lecturers have wrongly navigated to carelessly going too close to the female students thereby displacing the crux priority of students and lecturer relationship.

The Nigerian society and the world at large have had records of vicious perpetuations, perpetuated by some lecturers who have intentionally shifted from the initial plan of orchestrating a downright relationship that will in time inject positivity into the lives of the students. Ideally, it is supposed to be either mentor or fatherly relation between tutors and their students, especially in tertiary institutions, but the trend isn’t like that anymore in Nigeria. One can hardly discern whether it is as a result of our barbarism, cruelty, rapaciousness among others because the situation has gone beyond madness and the purpose of lecturer-student relationship has been over time misplaced, and our educational buoyancy seems fleeting away with a never-ceasing wind.

The emergence of missionary Universities in Nigeria at some point gave us a relieve touch that all of those immoral and lascivious practices found in our National Universities would be bridled and a lasting control instigated However, the reverse is the case as many lecturers in those so-called missionary Universities have found it snug to achieve making a mess of the innocent growing students who are yet to be reformed to challenge Nigeria’s mediocrity. Psychologists have further analysed; when lecturers form positive bonds with students, classrooms become a supportive space in which students can engage in academically and socially productive ways.

Positive lecturer-student relationships are classified as having the presence of closeness, warmth and positivity. It becomes madness, a Federal crime and a shift from the reality when a lecturer does not understand his bond confinement and thriving to know what does not connect his purpose with a student. So many lives have been fused off, because of a careless relationship between a lecturer and a student.


It is a point of duty for all management of institutions to check and balance the activities of their staffs before immoral acts become irreparable in our educational system. The Government is also duty bound, thereby, having a vital role to play in cropping out those shameless staff that do not have anything to imbibe on a child other than making a mess of that child.

The Government should strive to implement stringent laws around the walls of all Universities that will aid positive relationship between lectures and students. Lastly, the Government should also remember that the university is a place where lives are sculpted and it is needful for them to support in breeding a class of graduates that will forever be chronicled in the archive of history.

Written by: Ezra NnasomUkanwa.

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MY KNIGHT IN SHINING Armour. By: Desola

I always stared out a small arch window at the topmost corner of the castle. I loved the view from that window, I could see a vast area of the Kingdom, I could see a large land of green grass and beautiful yellow flowers, people working on their farms; they looked pretty tiny, like toy dolls and it made me giggle.

I had been in this castle for so long, I had no idea what other people looked like or how they spoke or how they behave. I only ate in the mornings and evenings when the Maidservant would slip me a tray of food under the heavy, wooden door.

Papa spoke to me once a month, he also, would slip a small or large piece of parchment under the door, depending on the content of the message. This time, the parchment was unusually small, I unrolled it and my eyes darted from one end to the other. It read: “Suitors will be coming for your hand in marriage”.

I was dazed and everyday million of thoughts will run through my mind about what kind of men would come looking for me because I knew I needed the right person that would be able to let me out of this castle.

One day, a fine young man came, he was tall and well built, he came with a white friend, his friend was so beautiful, she had wings, she also had a beautiful smile drawn across her face, her face shone so brightly, just like diamonds, her wings looked soft and fluffy, her eyes were as clear as crystal.

The young man, he spoke so eloquently, he wore a solid gold armour, I was almost blinded by the glow from it. His white friend spoke to me, trying to convince me, but the Prince spoke so rudely to me. I made up my mind that he wasn’t my suitor.

It took a while before any other suitor came, I was scared and sad. I thought no one would be able to set me free from this awfully cold castle.

I sat at the edge of the staircase leading to the roof top sobbing, my eyes were filled with tears.

“My Lady” I heard a masculine voice. I looked up, but I could barely see his face, my sight had been blurred by my tears.

His eyes- his eyes were bright and sparkled.

His lips were pink, he had a beautiful smile that revealed a set of white, well arranged set of teeth. He was so tall, I had to look all the way up to see his face.

His voice was deep but gentle, but he wasn’t wearing an armour but he was smartly and decently dressed.

He spoke to me in a tender voice, he bowed slightly with his right hand outstretched towards me, I wiped tears from my cheeks with the back of my hand, I grabbed his outstretched hand, he smiled and pulled me up.

I had found My Knight in Shining Armour, and he wasn’t even wearing one.

©Desola 2019.

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DRIFT. By: Nuel.

Each day, I’m amazed at how the simplest things of life becomes so hard an equation to understand. I’m always filled with questions as to how possible it is for a tiny eight letter word such as ‘FEMINISM’, turns some people- educated people into vicious beings always ready to attack; throwing all logic and understanding away at the slight mention of this word. I’ll like to move away from the normal ideology of some individuals that not every lady TRULY understands what feminism stands for. Let’s drift, shall we? The men, the Kings, saddled with most responsibilities by default or by societal values. Let’s gauged the extent to which both our actions and in actions have also influenced the meaning of this nomenclature. I could end up stepping on toes, but it’s been long overdue.

It’s a sad truth that a major problem behind the crippling and not-so-pure understanding of the true cause of feminism; true equality, is due to the attitude of some of us, Kings. It’s quite understandable being born into a world where the “culture” rules, we tend to try abiding true and through to this so called culture and become blind to the damage it might be doing to us. “You’ve got to respect the culture bro”, even when this culture makes you look less human? “You’ve got to respect the culture bro”. What exactly then is this Feminism and how do we Kings contradict its true meaning?

The 8th edition of the Oxford Advanced Learner’s Dictionary defines “Feminism” as the advocacy of women’s right on the ground of equality of the sexes. The issue of rights for women did not just begin recently, history has it that it became prominent during the French and American revolutions in late 18th century, with a ‘second and third wave’ in the 1960s and 1990s respectively. In simple terms, true feminism has always advocated equality, not equality in the sense of might or squaring up but equality with the main aim of not belittling or confining a particular gender to a selectively stereotype. Despite all these facts, sadly, some kings see it as a threat as some would call it to their “bible-given” birthright which has become the favorite verse and defense line to those who cannot even read, “Wife, submit thyself to thy husband, he is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church” but these same defenders all of a sudden become oblivious by choice to the next verse that says “Husbands, love your wife, even as Christ loves the church…” Taking things out of context just to favor oneself isn’t good enough, let the truth, be the truth.

Prior to this release, I’ve been with a lot of ‘friends’ who to my dismay are full blown misogynist (they don’t see it that way); hating and frowning at anyone feminine who is successful or out there making the world see the light (according to them, anything outside the confines of the home…or the other room) and they air their twisted views with much pride and reckless abandon. Some would even say “My wife must respect me, what’s that!?, I paid her dowry so she must do as I command {well-done, camp commandant}, she can only talk when I want her to, I’m the captain, I’m in charge…. I like my women seen, not heard” lol. At this juncture, I’ll like to reiterate, there is a tiny gap between love and mutual respect, that gap is where mental slavery resides. If in the 21st century, you still hold and believe in these ideals, without mincing words, I’ll put it to you that you’re a slave of your own self. You need to break free.

We all could live in a world where there is mutual respect, love- true love for everyone, a world where I don’t need to be favored because I’m seen as the strong one or I do not need to be deprived because I’ve been stereotyped and placed in a virtual class seen as the weaker vessels. The ideals behind TRUE feminism is simply threading the same path on which the fight against racism has and is still threading. Life in itself is beautiful and peaceful when there’s understanding. You have a choice to make; see the light and follow it, or remain in the limbo of darkness.

The Revolution has begun, with or without you.

Peace and Light,

Nuel.

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StacySpeaks’ 365 Days Of Writing: Day 4.

It was about 5 weeks to the end of the semester, that spelt doom for me; not that I was unprepared for exams but because I had spent every passing day trying to remain unnoticed in my slightly populated lecture hall. However, it was now time to stand before all as I defend my class project, in the presence of my lecturer who I think I’m in love with. Anyway, I made a plan which I thought was perfect! You might think I suffer glossophobia but I don’t and it’s absolutely beyond what you think. I’ve fallen in love with him since the first day he taught us; his speech is clean, spotless and well built body, nice hair cut and his grey hair is everything. I’m sure he spent quite some time standing before the mirror combing each strand of hair on his face, I mean his eyebrows turned me on.

I had made sure I passed every test and class work just to impress him but I still went unnoticed so I hope my plan pans out well! The time came and I limped to the stage with my file and a bottle of water in my hand before I could look up to take the next step, he had walked close to me and said slowly, “Are you sure you can do this right now?” I looked him in the eye and muttered something in between yes and no; I am not sure what it was but I know that I had collapsed almost immediately. I fell in his arms just as planned but I wasn’t faking it this time. I think he carried me to the health center and stayed close by till I gained consciousness. Our eyes locked into each other’s again, his brown eyes glowed.

He asked if I was alright saying, “I wonder what could have been wrong with you because the doctors are still trying to diagnose the nature of your illness, you are my best student and it’s not the best time to be indisposed. I noticed you even when you thought you were hiding”. We both laughed as he held my hand and waved bye then said, “Get well soon as I can’t wait to see how much work you’ve put into your project”.

As I write to you, I can only say that I had played my penalty into throwing because I would be right before him tomorrow morning after I get discharged making a substandard presentation which would certainly disappoint him.

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DIARY OF A KEBBI CORPER. Episode 6: A Solitary Christmas. By: StacySpeaks.

It was all fun and games after my folks convinced me to attend my convocation in November 2018; with the Ted talks that, “you know convocation only happens once in a lifetime except you’ll be going for a second degree; you can’t afford to miss it. In fact, the truth is that after that day you won’t see many of your friends and mates again”.
I weighed my options, considered sitting in a tight vehicle for 14 hours, likely to forfeit spending Christmas with my family which initially sounded like a joke to me until now.

My convocation gown looked good on me

My not more than 11 days at home was the definition of, ‘enjoy yourself while it lasts’. I visited everyone within my reach because I was bracing up for a Christmas without them but it still hurts that I was unable to visit my dad because I just couldn’t bear an extra 5 hours on the road to get to him.
All along I had been praying for strength and a change of heart, hoping for the will to embark on another 14 hours trip to celebrate Christmas with my family the usual way but my mind remains fixed on not hitting that road from Kebbi to Ibadan for the 7th time this year.

The journey makes me look old and worn out.

They told me but I refused to see things the way they did. They told me that I will be bored, lonely, very bored and very lonely but I didn’t want to see my solitary Christmas as ugly as they made it look. I plan to make the best use of everyday; I’ll work towards rounding off my online courses and other uncompleted projects before entering into the new year. I’ll eat well, sleep when I have to, watch movies as I chew some peanuts since I can’t get popcorn around, I’ll love every moment as it comes and just be happy.

I’m all out to be happy!

My roommate has already started her holiday and it’s the fourth day of my journey towards a solitary Christmas. I promise you that I’ll be happy. Credit alerts from my bank account will really be an energy giving food for me at times like this but please it would hurt my soul if all I get this season is a couple of Christmas trees sent to me via social media.

Writer: StacySpeaks 2018